"I operate under the impression that everyone is only doing what they do because they love doing it. I subscribe to the HAPPINESS channel. You only keep doing it because you're HAPPY doing it." APGB May 10, 2:42 pm
Lately, I've come to realize that the English language, or language of any kind, rather, does not efficiently express ideas. That's it's more productive to watch people behave, listen to them talk, and then connect the dots.
Happiness literally means a state of joy. Which is cute, because even though society associates certain attributes to it (if you complain, you can't be Happy. If you look like shit, and act like shit, you can't be Happy. If you're broke, you can't be Happy. You get the picture) it has come to mean something else. In my terms, Happiness is being Happy with your life as is. Let's examine...
Let's take person A. Person A claims to want Happiness. Happiness in the societal definition. Yet, Person A does everything in their power to orchestrate events so they always end up quote unquote UnHappy. So then, it's only correct to assume that this person gets "pleasure" and "joy" from being in a state of sadness and despair. One of the main constants of human nature I find is that above all, humans do what they WANT to do. Not what they "should" do. If you want money, you go out and work. If you want love, and you can't find it. Go to Borders, have a coffee and go through the self-help section... TONS of resources out there willing and ready to help YOU change YOUR life, but if you like where you are.... keep doing you. (and people often do)
In America, if you want to change your life, you can. You just have to want to. Most people who are unhappy are unhappy by choice. All the things in your life are a result of the choices you consistently continue to make. Your body is a reflection of the foods you consistently choose to put in your mouth, and how much you like or dislike to be active. Your relationships are a reflection of how you conduct yourself and who you CHOOSE to be in your life. Let me stop, this is not a motivational speech, all I'm saying is. If you have a low-bliss tolerance, then that's your state of happiness. If you like drama, and turmoil, and plates flying, tears, stress... then that's what your life is. If you didn't like it, you would've changed the channel.
This realization has made me a much more forgiving person. When I reflect (I say reflect because I have no problems in my life. I like being "Happy" happy, I have the sky high bliss tolerance to prove it and my life is as easy as a breeze... just how I like it) on my past "problems" and "issues", I realized that the CORE fault was that people were looking in different directions. I'm looking ahead, blazing trails, getting things done, raising my bliss-tolerance bar and loving the only way a lover can. Meanwhile I was dealing with people who don't look up or ahead, they look at the spot they stand on, or behind, blazing scandals, not changing, not expanding or not growing in any way other than physically. Where they are now they've been for 10+ years, and have an EXTREMELY low Bliss Tolerance to match. They love the only way an Happily "UnHappy" person can love. With a vast amount of tragedy and self-sabotage.
Now that my life is exactly how I want it, and I purposefully choose my company, team members and lovers with such care and caution anyone would be impressed, I look at these memories with a warm glow inside, knowing I finally jumped over the gigantic mental hurdle. I feel like the Fox who was swimming across the river with the Snake on her back, and the Snake bit me (as Snakes do) and I still got to the other side and said, "Snake, even though you Promised not to bite me, I forgive you for behaving in the nature of your being, because... when all is said and done, you're a snake. BITE is what you do. Good Day Snake! Keep Snaking. You're exceptional at it!!"
Monday, May 24, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
W.F.Y (We Fuck You)
Men don't like something that was handed on a platter, but unfortunately. It usually is. For Example. I'm pretty forward, and I'm sexy, so I attract a lot of attention. But, it's this same quality that diffuses the men I truly want. Men I don't care for will have the sufficient amount of "chasing" they require, because I'm not interested. It's my lack of interest that interests them... (AHA-moment)... I can say with full force and vigor that 100% of men I've been seriously interested in have not been interested in me until I completely lost interest in them. So, really The Key is to play an a-sexual female. To look good enough to eat, but not want to be eaten.
This is the most frustrating part of courtship. Let me attempt articulating why...
women are evolving. We're not as shy or as womanly, or as well behaved as we used to be. We go for what we want in all aspects except one. MEN. And this is because, men like the challenge. We purposely don't hit on men because we are so acutely aware of the fact that men don't like being pursued. They lose interest in you when you communicate how easily they can get it. They like to think of themselves as the aggressors, the kings of the jungle
(please note that in most animal kingdoms, the female is more aggressive. The female of any animal is the one you DON'T want to cross paths with)
Well men, I have a newsflash, we like the hunt too. I think complex societal waves put women in the position of dormancy. Now women have had to invent creative ways of getting a man's attention, getting him to ask you out, and getting laid... all without sending a single indication that you orchestrated this the entire time. Thus justifying the "Ya'll don't fuck us, we fuck you" Mantra that is circulating the streets. But this factor also confuses. Let me go on
If you have to act Disinterested to one whom you are severely Interested in so he in turn becomes Interested in you, Then how useful is it to behave Disinterestedly in one whom you are truly and honest to God Disinterested in? I have scientific proof that behaving disinterestedly in men only encourages them. People who I've never given a damn about are still very very enamored by me, but people who I like, who I smile and give my number willingly to, those who know they have more-than-a-green-light when it comes to me couldn't be less Interested in me after they discover this fact.
I have two options. I can either swap responses (be too easy, too eager and too willing with those who I swear to God cannot stand, and never ever ever want to date, so that they can be automatically turned off and leave me the hell alone. Also, In turn be aloof, cruel and Disinterested to those I adore and have them be my sexual slaves until the end of time.)
Or continue to walk this fine line called 50%. Where you're not too eager but you're willing. Where you read faces and guess the way. Where you give up on having those you want, because you can't behave appropriately, and settle for the ones who sneak into your heart cavities through good old blood, sweat, and tears. Kill the natural born killer in you, and settle for societies footprints. Why? Why surrender? Not only is it easier, their formula's have a better success rate than yours. Either you play it your way and lose, or play it their way and win. I shall conduct a social experiment for this soon.
This is the most frustrating part of courtship. Let me attempt articulating why...
women are evolving. We're not as shy or as womanly, or as well behaved as we used to be. We go for what we want in all aspects except one. MEN. And this is because, men like the challenge. We purposely don't hit on men because we are so acutely aware of the fact that men don't like being pursued. They lose interest in you when you communicate how easily they can get it. They like to think of themselves as the aggressors, the kings of the jungle
(please note that in most animal kingdoms, the female is more aggressive. The female of any animal is the one you DON'T want to cross paths with)
Well men, I have a newsflash, we like the hunt too. I think complex societal waves put women in the position of dormancy. Now women have had to invent creative ways of getting a man's attention, getting him to ask you out, and getting laid... all without sending a single indication that you orchestrated this the entire time. Thus justifying the "Ya'll don't fuck us, we fuck you" Mantra that is circulating the streets. But this factor also confuses. Let me go on
If you have to act Disinterested to one whom you are severely Interested in so he in turn becomes Interested in you, Then how useful is it to behave Disinterestedly in one whom you are truly and honest to God Disinterested in? I have scientific proof that behaving disinterestedly in men only encourages them. People who I've never given a damn about are still very very enamored by me, but people who I like, who I smile and give my number willingly to, those who know they have more-than-a-green-light when it comes to me couldn't be less Interested in me after they discover this fact.
I have two options. I can either swap responses (be too easy, too eager and too willing with those who I swear to God cannot stand, and never ever ever want to date, so that they can be automatically turned off and leave me the hell alone. Also, In turn be aloof, cruel and Disinterested to those I adore and have them be my sexual slaves until the end of time.)
Or continue to walk this fine line called 50%. Where you're not too eager but you're willing. Where you read faces and guess the way. Where you give up on having those you want, because you can't behave appropriately, and settle for the ones who sneak into your heart cavities through good old blood, sweat, and tears. Kill the natural born killer in you, and settle for societies footprints. Why? Why surrender? Not only is it easier, their formula's have a better success rate than yours. Either you play it your way and lose, or play it their way and win. I shall conduct a social experiment for this soon.
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